What You Were Never Taught About Your Own Body (But Deserve to Know)

Let’s start with this:
If you don’t feel totally confident explaining your own anatomy—you are not alone.
In fact, you’re part of the majority.

Because most of us weren’t taught the full truth about our bodies.
Sex ed was often clinical at best, fear-based at worst—and it almost never covered pleasure, body literacy, or emotional connection.

That ends now.

You Deserve to Know Your Whole Anatomy
For many women and vulva owners, even the basics were skipped.
We were told to fear pregnancy and STIs—but not told where the clitoris is.
We learned how to say “no,” but not how to say “yes” with clarity.
We got diagrams of reproductive organs—but rarely anything about arousal, discharge, or pleasure.

Let’s clear a few things up:

• The vulva is the external part of the genitals (not the vagina)

• The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings and extends internally

• Vaginal discharge is normal and changes throughout your cycle

• Arousal and desire look different for every person

Pleasure Isn’t Just Physical—It’s Knowledge
You can’t fully experience pleasure if you’re afraid of your body.
If you’ve only ever seen your genitals in a quick glance or under a sheet,
it’s hard to feel confident expressing what feels good—or even know what that is.

That’s where body literacy comes in. It’s the practice of noticing, understanding, and respecting your body’s signals:

• What turns you on

• What feels uncomfortable

• Where you hold stress

• How your cycle impacts your energy

This is about more than sex.
It’s about agency, trust, and knowing what your body is telling you—without shame.

Disconnection Is Common (and Reconnection Is Possible)
If you’ve ever felt numb, shut down, or confused about your own body—it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you weren’t given the tools. The good news? You can come back into relationship with your body.Gently. Consistently. Without pressure.

Start with practices like:

• Pleasure mapping (exploring your body without the goal of orgasm)

• Mirror work (looking at your body with compassion)

• Self-touch (with curiosity, not performance)

• Cycle tracking (to observe patterns in mood, sensation, and desire)

You were never meant to live in confusion or shame about your own body.
You were meant to live in partnership with it. It’s not too late to learn. To explore. To connect. Because knowing your body isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.

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Jen xx