5 Ways to Flirt With Your Long-Term Partner
When you have been together for years, flirting can sometimes fade into the background. The early butterflies of attraction are replaced with daily routines, bills, and “what’s for dinner.” But here’s the good news: you can bring that spark back without forcing awkward date nights or trying to be someone you’re not.
Flirting with your partner is about presence, playfulness, and making them feel noticed all over again. Think of it as rediscovering the magic you already share, not creating something brand new.
Here are five simple but powerful ways to flirt with your long-term partner.
1. Use Secret Signals
Little inside jokes or cheeky private gestures can be more intimate than a grand romantic gesture. Send them a playful text in the middle of their workday or share a knowing smile across a crowded room. These signals say, “I’m thinking about you, even when we’re apart.”
Want to make it even more fun? Pull out our Date Night Cards and choose a challenge you can playfully reference throughout the day. It keeps the anticipation alive until you are together again.
2. Compliment Them Often
We all love being reminded that we are attractive in our partner’s eyes. But generic compliments can start to feel flat. Instead, get specific. Try: “That shirt really brings out your eyes” or “I love how confident you look in that jacket.”
Adding thoughtful details makes your partner feel truly seen. And if you want to take it up a notch, surprise them with a piece from our lingerie collection and let them know how irresistible they look when they put it on.
3. Tease With Affection
Playful teasing builds a sense of closeness. It shows you know your partner well enough to poke fun in a loving way. Whether it is a silly nickname, a mock-argument over who makes the best coffee, or a cheeky dare, the goal is laughter and connection.
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4. Touch Lightly and Unexpectedly
Physical touch is one of the simplest yet most powerful forms of flirting. It does not have to be overtly sexual. A hand on their back as you pass by, a playful squeeze of the hand, or brushing your arm against theirs sends a clear message: “I still want you.”
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5. Remember How You Started
Think back to the early days of your relationship. Was there a silly nickname? A playful routine? A certain way you used to tease each other? Reintroducing those little habits is a powerful way to reignite attraction.
It tells your partner: “I still see us the way I did back then.” And sometimes, the smallest callbacks to your beginnings are the most romantic gestures of all.
Bringing It All Together
Flirting with your partner is not about becoming someone new. It is about remembering the spark you already have and choosing to nurture it. Presence, playfulness, compliments, teasing, and touch are simple ways to keep attraction alive day after day.
And if you want some extra help, our collection of flirting essentials - from Date Night Cards and pheromone rollers to lingerie and massage products - can make it even easier to keep that spark burning.
Jen x